There are many people for whom the question “Well, what does it actually cost you? To be inclusive/accepting/kind?” just doesn’t apply. For many people, it doesn’t “cost” them anything, because they are in effect “paid” with the currency of goodwill, or social approval, or their virtue is recognised and returned to them by the widespread validation of their values and beliefs.
But when certain narratives become orthodoxies, paraded by the nations beloved Beeb, those orthodoxies become active in constructing an impenetrable wall, hiding from public view other perspectives; perhaps even the perspectives of those who actually have relevant “lived experience” of what being kind/inclusive/accepting of trans people has meant for their families and loved ones.
For us, it’s cost us our daughter, for over 5 years of estrangement.
But that is of no concern to those who want that warm fuzzy feeling. Here’s a beeb luvvie telling us exactly what being kind to trans people has meant for them
“Whatever they want me to say. Yes I’ll say it!” Such a nice, warm feeling
SO so brave. Maybe Graham Norton’s next guests should feature a detransitioner, or a trans widow, or a parent exiled from their child’s life. I could recommend thousands
Cath Leng writes brilliantly on Twitter about the ideological capture of the BBC by trans activists
It’s a question I get asked a lot. I refer them to my pinned story We Used To Have A Daughter, and about how that impenetrable wall of silence builds, brick by brick, when challenging viewpoints and free speech are denied. Helen Joyce (above) describes precisely a different take on the same wall-building - not by media luvvies on tv, but by a single, affirming parent within an organisation. She nails it perfectly. It seems impenetrable to both science and culture
Hollywood celebrities cement everything together; none more disturbing than a “privileged” lesbian couple larking about with a man faking womanhood. How many women would consent to this cult propaganda stunt? Implicitly assumed on their behalf? Q. What does it cost Jodie Foster? A. Nothing. And what does it cost those whose lives have been negatively impacted by trans ideology? Families, spouses, partners, sons, daughters?
No curiosity at all, just bravery in defending the status quo, or self promotion
and (speaking of rock music) ….a very troubling generational divide. What does it cost these people? And why is our consent always assumed to be agreement? The music industry seems to be riddled with childless men looking to boost their fanbase. It costs them nothing
Attempts by trans activists to trans music history and suggest Kurt Cobain was “actually trans” was a moment of light relief this week. As was the number of suggestions of other formerly famous trans people that the beeb should be supporting and celebrating for their stunning bravery
I did not consent to to the non-consensual penetration of gender ideology into our family life. I did not consent to “going along with it”, or extending a warm welcome to the men in dresses who entered our daughters life behind our backs. I did not consent to a surgeon amputating her breasts or a doctor prescribing her hormones. I did not consent to her erasure of us, nor the requirement to keep quiet. I did not consent to our son becoming an only child. I’ve never consented to any of it. Nor has my wife. But it has cost us more than I have words for.
This is your most moving post yet. The cost of the trans movement in incalculable. And yes, the lies and forcing down of dissent cause our children to believe their parents are stupid fools and discard our warnings. My daughter, now 17 and in this since 12.5, has, on more than one occasion, dismissed my warnings with the claim that "every major medical institution says affirmation - social and medical - is the only response to a teen's claim to being 'trans.'" She has no idea about institutional capture or people worrying about their jobs, or mainstream and social media platforms preventing dissenting voices from being heard. When actors like the one who played Professor Sprout claim it "costs nothing and makes people happy" to assist delusional thinking, she spits in the face of the franchise of which she was a part. Clearly, she did not get anything Harry Potter was about!
Tell them to look up trans widows.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xdIvcAA5HP8&t=35s