Some absolute corkers from my 5 yr long education in all things transgender, some reflections on another dads response to their troubled teen, and a topical interpretation to end with. Ready?
Being nonbinary makes you part of a binary; those that ARE & those that AREN”T
For many young people, cool and edgy nonbinary identities often start out as social transitioning but lead to much more serious transition harms - binding, puberty blockers, cross-sex hormones, double mastectomies.
Nonbinary identities can turn perfectly ordinary young people into narcissistic bullies once attention-seeking turns into “Validation and Affirmation from everyone” AT ALL COSTS. Parents must constantly PROVE they are allies
Selling nonbinary is problematic, especially when you’re selling to men or women haha, ie selling to the binary you can’t make un-exist, because everyone else is in it. And so you retreat and enter a bubble where everyone thinks like you, complains about the cis, about not passing, about the literal violence of being misgendered, and feel more secure, more at home.
Celebs help cement the idea in the minds of the young and vulnerable (until celebs face their own stupidity and attempt a dignified reverse)
Nullo surgery for nonbinary people is starting to become a big money-maker
Yes, even God is nonbinary
Misgender an nb at your peril, the cult will come for you, enforcing compelled speech wherever they find it
Being nonbinary gets you big points on the Oppression and Hardship Index
Even nonbinary people acknowledge AFAB (Assigned Female At Birth) and AMAB (Assigned Male At Birth) thereby recognising their own birth sex first, as the prefix to their shiny new nonbinary identities
How can anyone be BOTH?
Nonbinary clothing for the sex binary :-D
If parents really want to help support their gender-questioning/troubled children & teens, ground them kindly, compassionately & persistently in the reality of sex and biology. One dad known to me, took his teen to a football match at a huge stadium - 50,000 people or thereabouts. Out of nowhere, he asked his teen to scan the vast number of people all assembled in one place, “See all these people? Every single human being cheering here today, is the result of a male sperm reaching a female egg. No-one could be here enjoying this moment, like us, if that didn’t happen” This single intervention turned out to be successful. It was well-timed, grounded in reality, & focussed on the external world of ordinary life being lived around them
Encourage free thinking also, talk about brave figures through history who have stood up for their beliefs, at great personal cost to themselves. Sometimes that links to the heroic loner they identify with. It’s so tough, because young people don’t want to think that they’re a sheep following the herd, but they also want to find a tribe to belong to. Cult groomers recognise this vulnerability, and in our own case, were already hard at work and grooming our daughter into the new queer family cult. The queer family won that battle (for the time being) at a point when we were still doing our best to support her and let her know how loved she was. Supportive Parents v Transphobic Parents is a fake binary, there is always a nuanced spectrum here, as parents struggle to keep their child close (while privately disbelieving gender bullshit) in order to PROVE they are 100% allies - nothing less will do.
Unfortunately, fathers like actor David Tennant, who publicly defend gender ideology; being largely new to it all (and possibly rabbit-in-the-headlights), make it so much harder for the truth about gender identities (and their destruction of family bonds) to be told. Not being an “out” GC myself, is my protection of the threadbare mental health of our trans-identified adult daughter, and it means we can hold on to a tiny scrap of hope.
Thank you for channeling the trauma of having a child caught in this web into fighting for all of our children. I will keep praying your daughter makes her way back to reality and her loving family.