Just waded into a local bill that wants to use GI in the language of a bill to prevent discrimination on the basis of sex, religion, skin color, age and now (sexual orientation) fine by me and GI, albeit anon on twitter. Lawmaker threw out the intersex as an example of GI. Also asked me to define religion. Not sure which angle of two he was getting at; religion is a belief as is GI and can be used or if he was thinking I was a right winger and thought I would be offended at him using religion. He won't directly answer any question.
Do parents ever feel rage at their children? PITT stories never speak of this either. I understand how children are misled but I also feel rage twards them for hurting their parents & siblings so badly. It's like a husband leaving his wife for the "other woman" for luring unstead of rage at the husband.
I feel rage at these children & I'm not even involved. Is rage not a stage of grief? I hope this comment is not hurtful.
Not hurtful in the least Elisabeth. The short answer is Yes. But it's equal parts anger (at the betrayal and psychic violence and trauma) and equal if not more, love & compassion. I suspect that for many parents it's the biggest contradiction they could ever be demanded to live with. One of the main reasons for continuing with this substack is because I wanted to keep her old/true self alive, despite her own best efforts at destroying that - and US along with it. I want to remind the world that our daughter was such a compassionate, kind, determined, loveable, funny, and loving person but gender ideology and her own mental health, inability to reason and rationalise, and many other factors have turned her into a cruel tyrant. That's what I feel so angry about, and that's why I spend so much time trying to expose how the ideology and group think of the cult that has taken her, has fashioned this person and how they could ever imagine behaving in the way they do but not be bale to see it, or understand their own nature, along with the abuse they receive along the way. She's truly radicalised. I don't think I will ever NOT feel rage about this. And about societies indifference to the whole hideous cult. We also feel enormous love for her still, feel very sorry for what's happened to her, and would have her back in our lives in a heartbeat. I set out to honour a commitment I made to my daughter which was to educate myself (as they are so fond of saying) and all Denton does is report my findings - of my ongoing education 4.5 years later, of an estrangement that has almost destroyed us, I'll continue to report my findings if only for the fact that our lives, and living everyday with this ambiguous loss, might prompt others to act, and to speak out, or at least question this critically about subjects I raise in my posts. I have to do this anonymously at the moment because other people could damage hope, reconciliation, recovery of her truth, mental health, or destroy our family by exposing who I am, and who our champion child is. There are people known to me who would do this without any thought of the consequences. I also reserve my rage for those who have far less to lose than we do, by not speaking out, but won't. And for parents who uncritically affirm their childrens delusional thinking. I'd better stop there. Grief is a known and understood human process, as old as life itself, but this ambiguous loss created by trans estrangement - of being held in a kind of psychic spell of indeterminate length or time is so tough. Thanks for responding Elisabeth
We are deeply worried and sad. We wonder why they fell for it, especially the narrative that we are abusive or evil just for not using a name or deal with an issue that is not related to trans. They will turn on us quickly, because it's all about their trans id. If we have children who are 17+, many of use are estranged or alienated because of the cult think. It wreaks havoc on families. Even trying to keep a relationship with ally children is monumentally stressful and contentious. We are angry with the cult, medicine, lawmakers, teachers, tech and TRAs for preying on our kids. Our children are vulnerable for a variety of reasons, and I wonder how much is old fashioned brain washing. We love our children and want nothing more than for them to be happy, and content. Unfortunately, our children are not and in many instances have been searching for an identity for some time. Some children search longer and it's nothing unique to this generation. We had hoped that as they move to the next stage, they will mature and find themselves. Instead, the GI cult has provided that meaning for them, however misguided it is. The cult as triangulated us. Our children can't see it yet. The cult as triangulated us.Parents are always the ones to be lashed out at; we endure it and hope for maturity and understanding. Hasn't that always been true? Adding in the trans cult takes it to a toxic level. When it comes to this, no, we don't feel rage at our children. We hope they come back. Healing can begin when they do. We long for that.
You connect so many threads and patterns here. The sum of these parts is a whole lot of cult. I realized yesterday that I have to limit the story of my trans widowhood (I'm the ex wife a man who's claimed to be me, the mother of our sons, for 3 decades) to those I already know will treat me with respect and compassion. Yesterday I mentioned a few of my details and how relieved I was to see that Jamie Reed became a whistle blower with similar narratives to those in the new book. No sympathy, no gesture of female solidarity from this woman--just tropes about the "attacks" and the "suicides." Ute Heggen channel on youtube is now starting a series on parents of ROGD girls based on the stories the mothers contact me with.
Just waded into a local bill that wants to use GI in the language of a bill to prevent discrimination on the basis of sex, religion, skin color, age and now (sexual orientation) fine by me and GI, albeit anon on twitter. Lawmaker threw out the intersex as an example of GI. Also asked me to define religion. Not sure which angle of two he was getting at; religion is a belief as is GI and can be used or if he was thinking I was a right winger and thought I would be offended at him using religion. He won't directly answer any question.
Keep speaking your truth, thinking of you and wishing you well. Keep us posted or give a link to summarise if you can or ever want to :-)
Do parents ever feel rage at their children? PITT stories never speak of this either. I understand how children are misled but I also feel rage twards them for hurting their parents & siblings so badly. It's like a husband leaving his wife for the "other woman" for luring unstead of rage at the husband.
I feel rage at these children & I'm not even involved. Is rage not a stage of grief? I hope this comment is not hurtful.
Not hurtful in the least Elisabeth. The short answer is Yes. But it's equal parts anger (at the betrayal and psychic violence and trauma) and equal if not more, love & compassion. I suspect that for many parents it's the biggest contradiction they could ever be demanded to live with. One of the main reasons for continuing with this substack is because I wanted to keep her old/true self alive, despite her own best efforts at destroying that - and US along with it. I want to remind the world that our daughter was such a compassionate, kind, determined, loveable, funny, and loving person but gender ideology and her own mental health, inability to reason and rationalise, and many other factors have turned her into a cruel tyrant. That's what I feel so angry about, and that's why I spend so much time trying to expose how the ideology and group think of the cult that has taken her, has fashioned this person and how they could ever imagine behaving in the way they do but not be bale to see it, or understand their own nature, along with the abuse they receive along the way. She's truly radicalised. I don't think I will ever NOT feel rage about this. And about societies indifference to the whole hideous cult. We also feel enormous love for her still, feel very sorry for what's happened to her, and would have her back in our lives in a heartbeat. I set out to honour a commitment I made to my daughter which was to educate myself (as they are so fond of saying) and all Denton does is report my findings - of my ongoing education 4.5 years later, of an estrangement that has almost destroyed us, I'll continue to report my findings if only for the fact that our lives, and living everyday with this ambiguous loss, might prompt others to act, and to speak out, or at least question this critically about subjects I raise in my posts. I have to do this anonymously at the moment because other people could damage hope, reconciliation, recovery of her truth, mental health, or destroy our family by exposing who I am, and who our champion child is. There are people known to me who would do this without any thought of the consequences. I also reserve my rage for those who have far less to lose than we do, by not speaking out, but won't. And for parents who uncritically affirm their childrens delusional thinking. I'd better stop there. Grief is a known and understood human process, as old as life itself, but this ambiguous loss created by trans estrangement - of being held in a kind of psychic spell of indeterminate length or time is so tough. Thanks for responding Elisabeth
Not Denton, but.......
We are deeply worried and sad. We wonder why they fell for it, especially the narrative that we are abusive or evil just for not using a name or deal with an issue that is not related to trans. They will turn on us quickly, because it's all about their trans id. If we have children who are 17+, many of use are estranged or alienated because of the cult think. It wreaks havoc on families. Even trying to keep a relationship with ally children is monumentally stressful and contentious. We are angry with the cult, medicine, lawmakers, teachers, tech and TRAs for preying on our kids. Our children are vulnerable for a variety of reasons, and I wonder how much is old fashioned brain washing. We love our children and want nothing more than for them to be happy, and content. Unfortunately, our children are not and in many instances have been searching for an identity for some time. Some children search longer and it's nothing unique to this generation. We had hoped that as they move to the next stage, they will mature and find themselves. Instead, the GI cult has provided that meaning for them, however misguided it is. The cult as triangulated us. Our children can't see it yet. The cult as triangulated us.Parents are always the ones to be lashed out at; we endure it and hope for maturity and understanding. Hasn't that always been true? Adding in the trans cult takes it to a toxic level. When it comes to this, no, we don't feel rage at our children. We hope they come back. Healing can begin when they do. We long for that.
You connect so many threads and patterns here. The sum of these parts is a whole lot of cult. I realized yesterday that I have to limit the story of my trans widowhood (I'm the ex wife a man who's claimed to be me, the mother of our sons, for 3 decades) to those I already know will treat me with respect and compassion. Yesterday I mentioned a few of my details and how relieved I was to see that Jamie Reed became a whistle blower with similar narratives to those in the new book. No sympathy, no gesture of female solidarity from this woman--just tropes about the "attacks" and the "suicides." Ute Heggen channel on youtube is now starting a series on parents of ROGD girls based on the stories the mothers contact me with.