It seems you just can’t win, whatever you do. If you hold the line, show your child unlimited love, encourage them to listen to alternative voices, acknowledge their difficulties and try to use all your experience and wisdom as the responsible parent to discourage them from taking irreversible decisions that will damage their health forever, you’ll lose them. They’ll ditch you and they’ll do what the gender cult or their glitter family insist they do. They’ll replace you to be with their fellow foot soldiers of the cult.
On the other hand….if you try and hold that line for however long you can, in the hope that they’ll push through it, but eventually the demands for pronouns and compulsory parental compliance gets too much, so you give in and go along with it, they’ll think they’ve won and you’re on-board with it all and you’ll have a demanding and manipulative and bullying trans child to deal with.
Or you’ll get BOTH, at the same time. Gender ideology really does turn the sweetest of souls into the most tyrannical despots imaginable
Or your child WILL and DOES eventually put it behind them, and you’ll be thankful that it’s passed with minimal damage and thankfully no surgery, infertility, atrophy, and all the rest of it.
But as a parent, you can never win, whatever you do. As part of the education I promised my estranged daughter I’d take, I’ve learnt a few things about other parents along the way
You CAN, even if every message around you says you have to comply
It’s as true today as it was when I started to look, “progressive” men think positive and real-world parenting and resisting the undue influence of gender groomers and ideology is somehow a “creepy obsession”
While other parents become propaganda puppets for the cult, their children abused for vanity or validation
Some parents desperately wish for a “trans child” for their own self promotion, or to meet a deep need to prove some kind of saviour complex, or gain attention
Some parents don’t “deserve” the love of their children if they express concern over their health and wellbeing, or even challenge their beliefs
Some parents call this concern “abuse” or Conversion Therapy. Some parents are a distraction, or an obstacle. Others should be ignored or bypassed by teachers, or used as moral props to support the cult requirement for new recruits
Some parents do good things for their children that often go unseen
Some people think they know it all. It costs them nothing. Some people think they can speak on behalf of parents, or OVER parents. Some people are paid to keep expressing opinions about things they know nothing about.
Some authors attempt to write something important and useful but find parents are poorly informed or excluded from dangerous knowledge
Some fathers are parents too, good parents, un-brainwashed and fully sentient
Some people think they know more about other people’s children than the parents themselves
Some detransitioners have a lot to say about their parents, often about how their own parents were lied to, or how they reacted to their transition, or how they always felt loved
Some parents wear matching t shirts to celebrate their daughters double mastectomies, or take to social media to celebrate the start of their child’s puberty blocker treatment
Some parents have a really hard time being heard, others just go along with the herd.
Some parents are unable to identify trauma within the family, or speak on behalf of their offspring. Others are unable to resist pressure from the clinics
Some parents here in the UK might soon find that a minuscule number of politicians might recognise the danger of criminalising parents. We’re watching and waiting.
Dr. Stephen B. Levine (the good Levine) has expert testimony webpages from the case against the s Kettle Moraine School Board in Waukesha, Wisconsin, There is also a more succinct 13 falsehoods of trans testimony on the youtube channel, Thoughts on Things and Stuff (Dr. Jonathan Streeter, cult expert) which I am transcribing. The link is at uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com, and I will be updating the text as I get it typed. It's my most recent post. You'll also find the Jamie Reed whistle blower articles as well as the truth about "Jazz" tv doctor, Marci Bowers (was Mark back when we were at the University of Wisconsin-Madison in late 1970s) and a few other pithy articles. Thanks as always, Carter!
There is no winning with this ideology. Even if we became one of the lucky ones and my son desisted today, I am forever changed by this.