And very informative too, Alice Dreger, educator and author of 'Galileo's Middle Finger' video recording from the FIRE 2017 conference on Academic freedom. Unmissable, informative and in my opinion, Alice has a definite gift for comedy.
When I started my memoir, In the Curated Woods, True Tales of a Grass Widow, I intended to write about my then husband as male, during our dating, 1978 wedding and 16 year marriage, then switch to "female pronouns" when writing about the years after 1996, when he had the surgeries. It didn't work. I'd already experienced mother erasure, situations where people who met him first in our sons' school thought I was the nanny. I'd refused to allow my kids to call me by my first name, when they came home from a weekend over there and told me it would be "fair" that way, obviously indoctrinated by their father. The fact that he became a deadbeat dad, lying about his $700 a day consulting job in court to get out of paying child support a year after the divorce was final, sealed his biological identity in my mind. And I will not call him my "ex-wife!" We might as well start saying the Sun rotates around the Earth. After all, when you're 4 years old, it LOOKS that way~Ute Heggen
BTW, he's now COO of his tech company, not at all "oppressed."
I’m just so sick and tired of the migraine-inducing coercive demands to do anything that reeks of stripping us not only of freedom of speech but also the breaking down of proper language usage. And when I was a kid grammar was my least favorite thing in English classes!
I don’t want - either as an ROGD parent or adult female human being - to be indoctrinated with this dehumanizing, tongue-tying thief of basic, normal, decent language usage.
It makes me so frustrated and angry, not to mention depressed, as I watch society acquiesce and comply with the language gestapo. When will this end? It’s like if we give an inch, they take a mile - laughing maniacally, like criminals who get away with murder and never get caught... serial language killers... etc.
Think it’s definitely worth trying. I have just avoided using any pronouns and use you when speaking about her to someone else in front of her. It’s confusing to say the least but I refuse to use they.
At times we need some humor
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IzNGkwGYE4E
As retired ESL teacher with 35 years of working in Japan, perhaps this has particular appeal.
I've posted this before, but perhaps the funniest keynote address in an academic setting I've ever seen /heard.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=onVV4HapB30
And very informative too, Alice Dreger, educator and author of 'Galileo's Middle Finger' video recording from the FIRE 2017 conference on Academic freedom. Unmissable, informative and in my opinion, Alice has a definite gift for comedy.
When I started my memoir, In the Curated Woods, True Tales of a Grass Widow, I intended to write about my then husband as male, during our dating, 1978 wedding and 16 year marriage, then switch to "female pronouns" when writing about the years after 1996, when he had the surgeries. It didn't work. I'd already experienced mother erasure, situations where people who met him first in our sons' school thought I was the nanny. I'd refused to allow my kids to call me by my first name, when they came home from a weekend over there and told me it would be "fair" that way, obviously indoctrinated by their father. The fact that he became a deadbeat dad, lying about his $700 a day consulting job in court to get out of paying child support a year after the divorce was final, sealed his biological identity in my mind. And I will not call him my "ex-wife!" We might as well start saying the Sun rotates around the Earth. After all, when you're 4 years old, it LOOKS that way~Ute Heggen
BTW, he's now COO of his tech company, not at all "oppressed."
I’m just so sick and tired of the migraine-inducing coercive demands to do anything that reeks of stripping us not only of freedom of speech but also the breaking down of proper language usage. And when I was a kid grammar was my least favorite thing in English classes!
I don’t want - either as an ROGD parent or adult female human being - to be indoctrinated with this dehumanizing, tongue-tying thief of basic, normal, decent language usage.
It makes me so frustrated and angry, not to mention depressed, as I watch society acquiesce and comply with the language gestapo. When will this end? It’s like if we give an inch, they take a mile - laughing maniacally, like criminals who get away with murder and never get caught... serial language killers... etc.
Just a little rant...
Think it’s definitely worth trying. I have just avoided using any pronouns and use you when speaking about her to someone else in front of her. It’s confusing to say the least but I refuse to use they.
Feeling your pain. Very frustrating! Wishing the world would be done with this hostile and unproductive game.