This section of my 4 part series was actually put together around 2 years ago, once I started to find very little, if anything, that ran counter to what I was learning. I’m afraid it’s clunky and ranty because it was tied-together from diary-style insights and musings and pulled together in the most direct and economical means I could achieve – I just couldn’t afford to waste words, if this was ever going to be useful in helping others join up the dots.
I also had spells of debilitating depression and the relentless churning of an internal monologue that never relented, so my brain was so full of it all – trying to work it all out - along with incredulity at the madness going on in plain sight. 2 years after that, and I still can’t get over our collective inability to understand where it all came from and where it could lead… Is leading.
I was burning inside with the anger of how our daughter had been so abused, how we’d been so blindsided, how immersion within the ideology had robbed her personality of her natural good sense and kindness, and how her abuse had been facilitated and enabled so easily and stealthily by others she spent time with. Every day, I wish I could go back, change things, I miss our daughter so much and 4 years in exile is a long time to be gone.
2 years on, I still find the cult pyramid model inside my head the easiest way for a visual learner to “see” the structure in place that supports the system in operation. It’s not so much a “model” in any grand science/data-type way – I haven’t even defined any geographical boundaries. The thickness of the layers will change according to whether this shape is applied to the UK, North America, Canada or Finland. it’s more of a shape that loosely describes its form and structure, and why it has such a firm base, why it’s so rooted and so hard to shift.
So I was starting to feel a bit like this guy
At the risk of mixing my metaphors, I’m going to confuse things even further by asking you to consider a chickens egg. If you hold the egg between thumb and forefinger and apply pressure vertically from above and below, it can hold firm for quite a while without crushing, despite a considerable force being applied with a squeeze. Eventually the squeeze will be too strong and it will break, but you get the idea. Tap an egg on its side however; where the shell is thinner, and the cracks instantly appear. It becomes an unstable structure and breaks.
Pressure exerted towards the sides of the cult pyramid could destabilise and weaken it significantly, coming in from a horizontal direction rather than trying to squeeze the structure vertically from top or bottom. It’s simple engineering – both egg and pyramid hold most defense against top/base forces. Come in from the side and apply pressure to its weak spots.
This horizontal pressure could come from any number of “outsider” stakeholder groups – parents mobilizing to pressurise and reverse the ideological capture of schools, working men and women with influence over institutional policy and law, a new medical group of experts with unarguable evidence in tandem with a media willing to challenge fear and silencing. That’s a hard nut to crack. These horizontally-directed attacks are NOT the means to “destroy trans peoples lives” or “erase their existence”, or any of that hyperbole - but to expose the cult system we’ve been seduced by, and return a common sense reality to Sex, and an end to the denial, deceit and delusion that a world so (trans)fixed by gender ideology has shaped into being.
So, given time, my writing will improve (pinky promise) I just have to get this monkey off my back first. The first part of my series recounted many of the circumstances of our family life in the early stages of our daughter’s transition away from home. This part introduces the idea of the cult form or shape; it’s various insider stakeholders and their positioning within the cult structure:
From top-down, the powerful and most influential level of this pyramid is the very tip - the Apex. From this point in the heavens, everything trickles downwards, disseminating knowledge, wisdom, money, power and influence cascading downwards; disproportionately nourishing the middle tiers below but providing just enough trickle for the bottom dwellers who do the real work right at the heavily-populated base of the pyramid.
That tiny little pinnacle at the very apex of the pyramid belongs to the Self- Actualizers. You have the mega-rich North American philanthropists linked to huge networks of wealth within the medical, pharmaceutical and healthcare industries, you have bonkers billionaires exploring Transhumanism and funding trans “research” through university chairs and research bodies, media organisations and lobby groups below them, you have The Pritzkers, the Arcus Foundation. They all buy influence and power through publishing houses corporate back-handing and fund gender lobbies linked to the bloated medical-industrial complex and the vast wealth it creates.
Sharing the same attic space of this triangular tip, along with the nut-job transhumanists and the American moneymen, you have the medical-industrial complex, healthcare organisations, pharmaceuticals, and the industry of body modification surgery. You also have extremely powerful individuals, heads of state like Joe Biden and Justin Trudeau who virtue-signal their adoration of gendered souls and seek-out the votes of the younger generations and the hungry needs of the industry above, to maintain the economic powerbase in order to virtue signal their blind BeKind endorsement of that special caste of the oppressed and marginalised.
In a large chunk of that pyramid underneath the apex you have an international task force coalition; ACLU, the UN, Amnesty, Stonewall, and huge swathes of large charity/NGO support, LGBTQ+ lobby groups and orgs (now only taking T money) and privileged, white, middle-aged, straight male cross-dressers, with established careers, often with married life and children behind them, now exploring their fetishes and auto-erotica as Phillipa or Pippa, while they ditch their wives and former relationships to “live their best life” as idealised and (often part-time) sexualised versions of the female sex. Privileged patriarchal white men with paraphilias - the Autogynephilia Army.
This is the beating heart of the trans “movement” The Men who demand we fall into line and recognise that they “are” women. Yes < actual Women >
Before I go any further, I‘d like to address the biggie that always comes up when GC talk about trans women. To clarify, I don’t “hate” trans women, I am not conducting a campaign of “hate” towards a “stigmatised and oppressed minority”.
For one thing, trans women seem to have plenty of social and cultural power, plenty of goodwill, influence and support across all areas of public life. They practically run the Pride events, are fawned over by simpering media, politicians and even UK Police forces, and take funding from orgs that used to be directed to LGB initiatives - because these men have hidden inside a Trojan horse.
When Trans Rights are discussed, plenty of ordinary people ask quite ordinary questions like “What rights don’t they have?” Well, it’s hard to think of any. Maybe Trans Rights actually means Access All Areas belonging to Women? The right to change language, policy, boundaries, spaces, thinking – the right to bend our thoughts to their will, to force non-consensual concepts into consensual ones.
From my own perspective, I focus on the damaging consequences resulting from the beliefs that they hold, rather than any individual. There’s a wide “spectrum” of trans women I’ve encountered in real life situations. Yes there are the screaming, preening narcissists and predators – they’re not hard to find, they’re the people who shout loudest on Twitter.
There are also some very rational and compassionate trans people who don’t demand access to women, or endlessly seek out validation, or constantly “affirm” the brittle and unstable gender non-conforming young people. They just want to do what suits them, live as the opposite sex, and present or perform femininity or masculinity without any requirement for others to comply with a delusion.
The trouble is, we’re faced with a set of very difficult questions that are tough to answer “What about the nice ones?” “We shouldn’t be mean to them, I don’t want to hate anyone”. So powerful is the BeKind mantra, it blinds us to the recognition that behind our backs, the nice ones continue to use gender non-conforming children, gender-questioning children, gender-troubled children to validate their own trans identities - encouraging these children towards social and medical transition behind the backs of the families and parents.
It drives a greedy appropriation of all things female. Of course, you’re going to be nice, be a lovely friend to all your adoring female friends – because you literally want to BE them. You need their love and acceptance, their validation of you, because you believe you are one of them. You’ve studied how they walk, sit, talk, you call them “honey” and “sweetness” because these are coded signals and shorthand for the stereotypical signs of femininity.
Signs and signals of femininity are not the same things as < being female >
And where, incidentally, is this equally-sized demographic of middle-aged women all desperate to turn into men?
From my own experience, I’ve seen this validation and appropriation quest played out numerous times in real life – both with interactions between friends and work colleagues, and in situations with our own daughter, who was subjected to the (then, unrecognised) grooming of 2 trans friends of the family.
One of these family friends walked our daughter back to our house, after a gathering in the home of the transwoman’s daughter – a girl of a similar age to our daughter. I stood on the doorstep waiting to welcome them in for a coffee, or to say a quick hello and thanks, to give daughter a hug, only to find the trans woman stroking our daughter’s hair in front of me and informing me (as if I didn’t know) how special our daughter was.
That single encounter left me with an itch I couldn’t scratch. In order to BeKind, I managed to convince myself that this was all just “a little inappropriate” or perhaps a parent just being a bit overly-friendly, a bit over-the-top but probably harmless. It became clearer much later, when daughter was full-on transitioning that the trans woman had “come out” just at the point when his own daughter was well into puberty and those very girly friends of his daughter were the most powerful validation of his femininity he could gain. His great regret was that he was never allowed to be that girl, because of course he was born in the wrong body, and had to spend all his youth in it. So he would say.
The same trans woman family friend once spent time in our kitchen, chatting away with a group of visiting family. Over coffee and a lot of good-humoured chat, he seemed to be able to draw-in the attention of all the women in the room, swapping anecdotes, showing empathy and concern for the troubles aired and shared, laughing along with the lighter moments, and occasionally reminding the room that he was a constant victim of other peoples prejudice.
All delivered without any eye contact - with me, or with any other male in the room. I was of no use to him after all – all he needed was the validation of the women, he needed to “pass” and he got what he wanted. It left me feeling like I was the one with the social awkwardness. I was being ghosted, being played, in order for him to get closer to what he wanted. This kind of behaviour is behind the trans woman’s use of female company – get the girls on side, I must pass, I am who I say I am, I’m just the same as you.
Had I known then what I know now; having traced back events in our daughter’s life that shaped her own vulnerability and predisposition towards transitioning, I would have kicked him out and never had anything further to do with him. But this experience only serves to confirm for me that many of the women who complain of this level of narcissism and constant need for validation do so with very good reason.
So, returning to these layers of the pyramid, the trans women of a higher social and economic standing, get to give Ted Talks and address important conferences, take salaries in think-tank Diversity and Inclusion roles and make sure that every media outlet publishes what they want to hear, in trans-positive editorials about the way human sexuality works, and about how dissenting from their theories is not kind at all to oppressed and marginalised people (quite unlike themselves).
Trans women of lesser status or cultural power, develop stronger links with Trans Radical Activists, Men’s Rights Activists, demand sex with lesbians, and generally ride on the coattails of any social cause that helps promote their own world view of Most Misunderstood Predator in the Known Universe. I will NEVER apologise for pointing these men out and drawing attention to their gas-lighting or their crimes.
During my 4 years of education it quickly became apparent that around 85% of ALL trans women – both the Oppression Olympics gold medallists andthose that came in last, have NO SURGERY whatsoever, and many in fact identify as lesbians (think that one through, in the mind-set of a sexually predatory male). This tends to surprise quite a few people, as it did me. This is a particularly nasty subject for most people to even contemplate – so they don’t.
And even further to my own surprise, I’ve not found a single trans person denying this. I’ve had circular arguments, been gish-galloped aplenty, been insulted and abused and threatened instead. In order to truly experience the level of misogyny at the beating heart of the trans “movement” (ie the men) I’ve had a Twitter account in a female name, from the very start of my education programme. I never blow my cover, nor raise my profile too high to attract the interest of the trans women and TRA’s who mass report people who dare to question or look too closely. I’ve had three bans so far, for expressing opinions thought “hateful” or transphobic, that’s par for the course if you argue from a gender critical point of view on this platform.
From this account I’ve been able to attempt to debate (doesn’t happen) and also to experience the level of hate that trans women have for women. Guys, this is something you really need to know about. I got it in the neck because they thought they could treat me like that, because here was a Terf, a foul, bigoted old hag who wants trans people to DIE!!
More than any other group, the trans women will change our language, force women’s boundaries and spaces wide open to accommodate their needs, erase and appropriate womanhood and urge on the social and medical transition of young people because it validates THEM. “See? I was like this all along. I had to wait years before I could come out. Young people today are so much luckier than I was but there’s still so much hatred around.”
Here in the UK, the NHS and other huge institutions scrub the word “Woman” or “Mother” from their language and literature, replacing these words with “Pregnant Person” or “Chest Feeder” – all because a tiny proportion of men – who know damn well that their own male biology isn’t up to the job of birthing a child – have poor hurty feelings about this. Their narcissism and jealousy can’t take it. And we’re supposed to feel sorry for them, and so we are urged to use more “inclusive” language. It’s the male-bodied people driving this through.
Within the cult structure they gate-keep the voices and thoughts of perfectly reasonable opinions through their social and cultural influence and power, and quash ANY dissenting trans voices of those who believe that it’s not actually healthy to be constantly demanding validation - at all costs - and under all circumstances. A large part of their work is all about shutting women up, because women see what other men can’t or won’t see. Women have been doing this for centuries, it turns out. Men, you really have to step up. Your wives, sisters, friends, daughters are literally handing back hard-fought rights and boundaries that in secret, trans women are trashing behind their backs.
Mid-way down the central portion of the pyramid you have the influencers: social media manipulators with large platforms and audiences, Paris Lees, Munroe Bergdorf, Shon Fae, Caitlyn Jenner (all male of course), minor celebrities wanting to be real and relevant again and down with the kids by showcasing their kinks, or appropriating womanhood, or coveting the badge of specialness that their non-binary or “queer” identities give them - grabbing some of that “brave and stunning” vibe that the youngsters get with their intoxicating affirmations and the love bombing when they “come out” with this weeks latest blue-haired, kitten-eared, gender fad.
There are many more groups within this central floor of the pyramid as it extends downwards – but it’s getting wider now, starting to spread outwards and downwards towards a wide base.
Right at the bottom, within that vastly wide, flat solid base of the pyramid, you have the Jostlers - thousands upon thousands of obedient foot soldiers, worker drones, and trans-supporting women allies - young LGBTQ-supporting trans people, trans men and non-binary predominantly, TRA’s (Trans Radical Activists), flag-waving Pride Parents, Gen Z internet-bred zombies, and young Millennials who will align themselves with anything deemed “woke” or progressive that their friends are into.
You have so-called “liberal” feminists who are used by the higher tiers of this pyramid to parrot the “Trans Women Are Women” mantra (TWAW). And you have Handmaidens who blindly waive away the rights and freedoms that their own mothers and grandmothers fought for, decades before they were even born. All these clusters of trans supporters and allies remain (to a lesser or greater extent) wilfully ignorant of the misogyny and harm to children that is deeply embedded within the heart of the movement. I’ve seen the damage happen inside our own lives, and experienced the gas-lighting and coercion that enables it.
At the foot of the pyramid you have the internet-nannied, gaming-obsessed, teen males from their basements in Oregon, who think it’s cool to join in with all the misogyny and whatever else their older brothers are up to. These young people simply don’t understand how to decouple a sexual orientation from a gender identity, and so they remain confused but simultaneously convinced of their own righteousness. Unfortunately they’re still included in this pyramid model because of the power they exert on social media to report, insult, threaten, and hate women. Incels also join in, for the sheer fun of it. J K Rowling’s recent personal statements drew that out for the world to see.
At the bottom, even below the ground surface, are trans widows, detransitioners, and parent-bigots, and criminal parents like us, who didn’t “immediately affirm” our daughters transition. We are a subterranean species.
So, once you take a deep dive into this pyramid-shaped cult, you see how each level interacts with the tiers beneath and the tiers above, and cutting through all the myth and propaganda, all the “Be Kind” mantras and the gas-lighting gets you in front of people who really do believe the most obscene things about women, about appropriating women and their anger at not being a woman.
You’ll cut through all the pseudoscience and uncover a pattern and a system in operation as clear as day - so you have to get through all these shouting bottom-dwelling incels and middle-tier influencers first. I’ve had a gutful, I can tell you. I maintain a low profile on Twitter, and thanks to their perception of me as a shrivelled-up old bigoty terf, I’ve been able to draw out the very worst of men – where these people will tell you what they really think – about women – while thinking they’re tweeting back to a woman.
You’ll also find out how perfectly intelligent people have been manipulated to view the gender critical pushback, as some kind of right wing army of angry republican Miss Trunchbulls (the entire gender movement relies on stereotypes, remember?) whereas most of the voices that made most sense to me, were invariably left wing or left of centre – reasonable men and women who work in Social Services, teachers, artists, and many of them too afraid to speak out for fear of losing their jobs or being cancelled.
And it really doesn’t take long before you realise that Gender Ideology only benefits a tiny and vociferous population of men, to the huge detriment of women and children. It’s a modern day cult funded and supported by an industry, enabled by the fuzziness and fear of an international web of pluralistic ignorance – the mass contagion belief that “if everyone around me says it’s OK, then I suppose it must be”. How dangerous this has proved to be.
{“if everyone around me says it’s OK, then I suppose it must be”. How dangerous this has proved to be. }
Unfortunately, most of the not so religious people who are not "yet" hurt by this movement think , people who oppose this freedom are conservatives and since I'm not a conservative , I should stand with the others. And currently only the conservative right wing media covers the opposing voices and their argument is based on religion. If we can agree on using a more unifying terminology I believe our voices would grow exponentially.
Deeply deeply dismaying, and I so wish it would end. But don't you think gender identity ideology is to the detriment of ALL - poisonous for the whole of society, not just women and children? Lovely young men (read/listen to de-transitioners Limpida, TullipR, Cut Down Tree, Robin, Isaac (Cluniac) etc) were all caught up in and seduced by it. Not in the least because they hate/hated women, but because in their cases they seemed to have had no-one in their lives who routinely combatted the insidiously male-negative culture we're saturated in [not hard to find evidence of feminist rhetoric in every nursery/primary school in the land, so it starts young]. That lack, in combination with their own personal experiences/ idiosyncrasies/vulnerabilities as they were growing up, seemed to create a pretty heady cocktail of confusion, 'grooming' them into fearing and loathing men, into fearing and loathing their own burgeoning [perfectly normal] adult masculinity: The ideology gave them a way to escape being 'toxic' men, to 'purify' themselves, gave them a justification for their anxieties and difficulties. It's tragic. And I want it to stop.