One of the core principles that drives so much of the hateful and irrational thinking behind trans activism (from both trans activists and trans persons) arises from having to constantly defend their Sex Denialism from attacks of truth and reality, of common sense and simple, straightforward biological facts.
Its roots seem to lie in the overlap between queer theory and gender ideology, and its torch bearers believe that sex is a spectrum, not a binary, and that gender identities supplant the primacy of our (m or f) sexed bodies. Many who believe in the sex spectrum argue that sex is some form of social construct that is malleable and fluid and that we can somehow move in and out of its categories.
Add in the widespread conceptual conflation between sex and gender, and you soon have a soup from which any ingredient you could possible imagine, can be added, simply because you made it up, therefore it exists.
The sex spectrum soup nonsense sits companionably with the whole “born in the wrong body” theory. It “proves” the existence of people with DSD conditions – or what used to be called Intersex conditions – which is useful to the trans movement, despite the fact DSD conditions are still/always affecting either of only 2 human sexes AND the people who live with DSD conditions really don’t appreciate their conditions appropriated as “identities” by other people.
More extreme trans activists and intersectionalists will go to great lengths to link it to Critical Race Theory or white colonialism, and of course Black Lives Matter. They will try and force team gender ideology with almost anything that increases oppression points, in order to climb higher up the ladder.
Every year, old articles about the sex spectrum, or “Sex isn’t Binary”, appear in Nature Journal, or the Scientific American, and are posted as proof of the opposite – humans only produce 2 types of gamete – and every year these articles and papers are debunked and disproved by scientists and biologists who show the most incredible patience when dealing with the activists propoganda.
This alternative primordial gender soup is being shipped into schools - in books, booklets, RSE literature, LGBTQ clubs, and a new generation of gender-confused and gender non-conforming children are being socially transitioned by activist and “queer” teachers.
The rush towards affirmation and validation that this social transitioning generates, isn’t limited to the trendy non binary alternative types. It feeds off the body dissociation disorders, anxieties and mental ill health of young people, for the sole benefit of a particular population of men who are turned on by feeling female. Why can’t we say this? That this older core group of trans women have been instrumental in indoctrinating the young minds of the generation below, is one of the trans movements greatest achievements.
Can any of us actually identify the point in time when transvestites and transsexuals suddenly became transwomen? We were all fine with that – I really did think that a transsexual of 20 years ago was a brave person for going through surgery and living their life as the opposite sex of their birth. That really takes guts. I didn’t fully understand their motivation, or the forces that drove that desire, but I still felt that it was their right for them to go ahead exactly as they wanted to, despite the risks and dangers and all the rest of it, because they were taking responsibility for the outcomes; which were not dependent of the approval or collusion of others. Simply to be the person they wanted to be.
And these transsexuals never demanded compliance, or the non-consensual submission to the belief that everyone has to say they ARE an ACTUAL woman, with rights to women’s spaces, sports, prisons, awards; where self-ID requires NO surgery, no beard shave - nothing in fact, except the simple declaration of “I am a woman” that we have today.
This is the kind of trap that so many people get stuck in. Something’s not right here. It’s the itch that we dare not scratch because the men have been so good at making us all feel frightened. We must at all times BeKind. For men, the mantra is more powerfully underlined if the women in their lives are all BeKinding too.
Trans women need this younger population of girls and young women in order to validate their own identities – to say “Look, see? I was born this way too, in a wrong body, just like yours. Go and live your best life in the body you feel you should be in. Be the Boy you never were, before it’s too late”. Until men can understand and feel the effects of the motivations and beliefs that drive trans women to groom, nothing will change. This doesn’t require some all-out assault on trans people, or “erasing” them, or any of that victim-centred hyperbole – it just requires an understanding of consent, of boundaries, of safeguarding, and how clever-but-devious people have reshaped concepts we once understood. It also requires an understanding of what Autogynephilia is - and how it links to narcissism and the constant need to be validated, to pass, to find self worth from other people.
As I’ve already described, two such trans women were instrumental in grooming our daughter. Her self-doubts and dissociations were preyed upon by these adult males affecting to be female, who should have known better, but who’s paraphilia’s drove their inner lives to externalise and sermonise. I don’t believe for a second, that many trans women recognise that championing the right of young people to defy family caution and concern, and go full steam ahead with drugs and surgery, is a dangerous thing to do. The narcissism and relentless drive to BE a woman, to be turned on by feeling like a woman, and to PASS as a woman screens them off from boundaries that reasonable people understand and “feel” internally and intuitively.
Ideas and concepts that we “feel” intuitively, have been overturned and reframed for us, by the male-bodied.
Most reasonable men just haven’t been listening. We are ALL being played by this cult, as much as everyone else, but the impacts are less visible on mens lives because Hey, it’s a Mans World. The Patriarchy still holds firm. We’re like fish in a tank, unaware of the water in which we swim - until life-shattering personal or familial events remove us from it.
Until this bomb dropped on us, I had no idea what all this guff about the “gender wars” was all about, I’ll put my hand up to that. I probably wouldn’t be peering under the bonnet and getting my education had our daughter not asked us to do better. Over 4 years, having given myself a female name, I went undercover on Twitter. I wanted to find out if the level of misogyny directed at “gender critical” women or feminist women (or just women in general) was true, and so I let those vile trans activists and trans women release their very worst thoughts and beliefs on me, in order to experience the hate and the misogyny that women in my life were telling me about. It’s all true. I never in a million years expected to find the levels of hate for women that men hold. It was off the scale. All from trans activists and trans women.
I experienced the same in real life situations, in disagreements with colleagues, or in random social encounters; far more diluted than the twitter hate directed at me - because they thought they were insulting a woman. But despite all the bad stuff that undeniably exists with twitter use – the shouty, hatey, abusive stuff – once you get beneath the top level shouters and activists, you’ll find reasonable people with reasonable ideas and opinions. You’ll find some clarity and honest help and advice from researchers, academics, parents, all sorts of people who are prepared to debate or (as I later came to discover) people who even entertain and promote arguments that they themselves don’t necessarily believe in, but still think it’s a good idea that those things get an airing no matter what.
On social media then, J K Rowling is therefore the biggest TERF of them all, for pointing out perfectly reasonably that biological sex is real, and asking us to consider what it means for society if women’s lives and concerns are erased or undone, if Sex is supplanted by the installation of Gender – both gender ideology at large, and within that, gender “identities”. Every which way you look, women are being appropriated, colonised, hated, sexualised, denied, disparaged in language, law and public life. J K Rowling was the fulcrum and stood firm in the face of an onslaught of misogyny. Our young women are being upskirted, sexted, subjected to choke porn, revenge porn, deep fake porn. Is it any wonder that a young woman, already disturbed by the difficulties of puberty looks around and wonders if being a woman just isn’t worth it?
And as so many have pointed out Nothing that J K Rowling has ever said, has denigrated or diminished trans people or their rights, just by asking us to think through what happens when gender impacts sex-based rights. Because J K Rowling is a rich and powerful, caring and just generally a generous human, LGBTQ-supporting woman - one of the greatest living writers too, trans activists can’t report her for a hate crime to an employer, so they send rape and bomb threats to her instead - by the thousands.
She embodies everything these pathetic men know they will never be, with huge strength. They can’t stand it. She becomes a hate target in order to deflect what she’s pointing out. See how it works? The idiot men can’t help but expose themselves in plain view as the misogynists they really are and then complain about how they’re misrepresented, about how trans women just want to live their authentic lives, about how much “cis” privilege women have.
So at the base of the cult pyramid; alongside trans men, gender ideologists, trans activists, and “woke” social justice warriors, a mish-mash of vocal groups of “liberal feminists”, woke parents, and trans allies all jostle for position in Support roles, desperate to nourish the needs of the men, and simultaneously demonstrate how kind they are. Seeded within a culture of acceptance (or wilful blindness) businesses and organisations captured by the trans lobby simply see the political expediency of the personal. And so it goes on, and on, and on. Until we’re brave enough to call it out.
The loudest voices of the trans “movement” are of course the trans women, (the men) who refuse to acknowledge their own self turn-on of fantasising themselves into women’s bodies, and the self-entitled narcissism that drives their “gender identities” and constant need for validation (TWAW = “Trans Women Are Women” remember).
Contemporary willingness and BeKind manipulation is then moulded and manipulated into shape around us in order for “kindness” to prevail, while Stonewall and Mermaids promote the corporate rainbow of inclusivity, of “Acceptance Without Exception”. In other words “Don’t Think About It”.
Until and unless this is challenged, it’s hard to imagine any progress for the pushback. Men have so much cultural power to protect. It doesn’t bother me in the slightest what ANY grown adult gets up to in private, and within consenting relationships. But forcing the private into the public, demanding we all agree that these men are <actual> women, encouraging our children that they share a common life-long “wrong body” problem with (it’s just that the kids don’t fully understand it yet) leaves me white with fury. It happened to us
To these men also, lets not forget, the rapidly-risen demographic of young (mainly) female transitioners at the base of the cult pyramid, merely prove the existence of gendered souls to their elders’ gender dysphoria, as therefore pathological and obviously always real since the day they were born.
That’s right, the feeling inside you, that you “feel” like you’re a woman is because you actually ARE a woman, but you just happen to have been born in a body you never asked for – not because the idea of appropriating woman (as evidenced) turns you on.
As so many older GC adults wonder aloud, what might have happened to them as children, if their own gender non-conforming behaviours or attitudes had been pathologised in their youth? Transed-away with cross-sex hormones and surgery? How many children today, are being encouraged by adults and parents to think that their gender non-conforming behaviour means they’re transgender? The Trans Child is an adult term that should never be given to children. There are only gender non-conforming young people, some of whom transition when older. Unless of course, you’re a 13 or 14-yr old girl having her breasts removed in hospital, due to the abuse of the adults that surround you.
You can even take an online test that will tell you if you’re transgender - because why should anyone believe real-life interpersonal interactions over almost anything delivered to us via a screen. Why have to hear this from an actual human being, when, for the internet generation, google is always the oracle to consult. Screens have sucked out their souls.
And if those gender non-conforming kids might turn out (as many do) to be gay or lesbian, and get through their difficult puberties and gender dysphoria (as many do), aren’t we then “transing away the gay”? Isn’t this the real Conversion Therapy?
The very existence of this vast population of smitten, inexperienced, transitioning young people gives credence to the cult elders (the trans women) of being “born in the wrong body” themselves, and therefore they have lived oppressed and marginalised lives in the shadows of denial and shame. They want their day in the sunshine. It behoves us again, to “Be Kind”. Constantly.
On social media platforms everywhere, trans women brag about their incursions into female spaces, bathrooms, changing rooms, their appropriation of female biology, their hatred for cis women. Twitter in particular is literally dripping with their misogyny.
“Trans Rights Are Human Rights” is increasing in volume whichever way you turn, turning us all into chanting idiots because, lets face it, what rights do trans people not have? Those that chant “Trans Rights” at Pride marches are more likely to be demanding easy and immediate access to drugs and surgery for their transitions, or they’re demanding rights to access women’s spaces, rights, and boundaries. I spent far too much time in the first year of my education (in my undercover female Twitter account) trying to talk about this with trans woman who came back at me with “hateful terf”, “we just want to get on with our lives”, to “we’re being erased”, to “you just want us dead, you fucking bigot”.
What else does “Trans Rights Are Human Rights” really mean? It’s the right for men to enter women’s shortlists, awards, prisons, rape refuges, support groups, to self identify as women at any and every opportunity, and enter their sex-segregated sports – just like Laurel Hubbard did in the Olympics, and just like Lia Thomas did with swimming. It’s the men wanting open access to every area of Womanhood. They want all the glory, all the glamour, all the “best bits” of feminity, but are strangely silent on whether they want more of the childcare duties, more of the domestic drudgery, more of the emotional labour that also features in the lived experiences of women, that men refuse to recognise.
The activists in tandem with trans women demand that language change to include them, such that a miniscule population of trans women (men) now feel “excluded” from women’s healthcare because they so obviously can’t birth babies, have periods, breastfeed, undergo cervical smears. So the entire world has to meet their demand to use more “inclusive” language – the language of “birthing people” (mothers), and “chest feeding” (breast feeding), and before you know it, it’s women who are being erased, while selfish and deluded men benefit. Why can’t men see this? Because the reverse never happens. Why does Inclusivity have to exclude women?
Parents and grand parents of young trans will either just go along with it, have to put up with it quietly, but wave their happy little rainbow flags for Mermaids propaganda films. Other parents find it preferable to “trans the gay away” just as the head of Mermaids did with her own son at age 16, then castrated abroad and put on the path to “sex change” via gender affirming surgery.
In this way, enabling and encouraging their own child’s transition means parents will not have to suffer the shame of a gay son or daughter. Gender ideology transes away the gay. Gay, lesbian, or homosexual now means same-gender-attraction. The game is up. Gender and Gender Identities have supplanted Sex as our primary descriptor.
Many parents also recognise it’s all dangerous nonsense of course, but are too weak to challenge it, bludgeoned and brainwashed by its relentless propaganda, or feel forced to put up with it in order to appease their gender-troubled teens in the hope that they’ll eventually see sense and “grow out of it”. I can see the wisdom of this approach, it makes sense to want to keep them close and not alienate them.
It works too, for a few, especially those in the younger years of teenage life, when younger GNC teens can be kept closer within the bosom of the family, although too often their trans children will eventually cross a line of indoctrination and it’s too late for parents to notice – a cool name change and blue hair quickly move on to demands for binders, “odd” clothes, new pronouns and testosterone.
Take a look at the new Pride flag – those new colours added, overlapping the LGB rainbow stripes now with a kind of triangular (strange that, like a pyramid shape!) intrusion from the left. It’s all there in plain sight. Everythingabout the trans movement seems to come (in one form or another) from reality denial, self deceit and a delusional psychosis. The visual evolution of the current Pride flag signals exactly what it means today, and the victory of trans supremacy overlapping all other colours. Those colours used to belong to the LGB. Now the TQ+ is all that matters; all that gets funded. Although, Bravo @LGBAlliance a sane voice in the wilderness and support for bisexual and same-sex attracted.
Some trans-affirming parents will be cheering their children on enthusiastically, unknowingly manipulated and bullied by their own children - although I’ve spoken with many who have described themselves as “dying inside” at the emotional expense of going along with it all. The pretence must be soul destroying, I know how much it costs them.
We did our best to go along with it, in the hope that time and changes of circumstance might shift and shake ideas and options that would encourage our daughter to rediscover some self-reflection, some critical thinking, and definitely some self care. But by the time she left home second time around, it was all too late - the groomers had got to her behind our backs, the departure from home signalled a rebirth for her - we’ve never met the person she morphed into, although we miss painfully the daughter we once had, now left buried in the frozen ground.
Significant individuals – several trans women friends of the family and a non-binary “role model” in a university-sponsored LGBTQ group – exerted undue influence over a vulnerable young woman. The indoctrination by others in her network was too powerful, it very neatly swept up all those anxieties, difficulties, and dissociations into a box marked “Trans” and now we have a daughter championed as a brave and stunning role model to the Oppressed, saviour to gender-troubled young people, a member of a sacred caste, presenting to all the world as a professional and caring human being, while compartmentalising terrible mental health that no-one - except her parents, sees.
And she knows this. That’s why we’re exiled from her life. And no-one will call it out.
Well we were never given the opportunity to grieve for the loss of our daughter. She’s been replaced by an avatar, an artfully constructed “identity”, her healthy breasts bilaterally amputated, her high pitched male voice, still parading how fantastic gender identities are to anyone who’ll listen. We haven’t had the opportunity to meet this new identity, and I cannot be de-programmed to ignore the beautiful memory of her birth, and of 20 years of adoring her female existence in the world we shared with her. My truth will not be stolen. Ever.
The trans movement has used the LGB Trojan horse to muscle in, in order to promote gender ideology into schools and mainstream life, and turn those inconvenient gay sons into straight daughters. Or turn gay daughters into straight sons. It still astonishes me how many gay and lesbian friends of my generation think they have any real “support” or representation from the rainbow crew. One particular Pride march held recently kicked out a group of lesbians for leading out the march – under their own banner - the rainbow banner that they felt included them. Barely anyone noticed. Or if they did, they pretended they hadn’t seen it, looked the other way. The reason they were ejected? They were same-sex-attracted lesbians – the old-fashioned inconvenient kind – and therefore transphobic.
The rainbow crowd supporters are fast succumbing to the inevitable dogma that lesbians are now same-gender-attracted, thus giving bearded men – the fake lesbians - the right to call lesbians who refuse the sexual advances of the be-penised males, transphobes. Check out Alex Drummond – once (or possibly currently) Stonewall’s “Lesbian Officer”.
The LGBTQ “movement”, far from being a peace-loving, love-inspired celebration of sexual orientation and sexuality is literally being eaten from within, like a parasite feeding off its host. Those Pride bystanders, all dutifully waving their little flags and cheering them on are unknowing bit-part players in a backstage plot they have no knowledge of. Trans-positive propaganda puts paid to that. The Pride crowd props-up the base of that cult pyramid and prevents it from sinking into the quicksand.
In The Truman Show, Jim Carey plays an innocent man who’s every movement is (unknown to him) controlled by others. A huge team of people engineer situations for him to respond to, for entertainment. All the while our likeable hero naively believes in the random nature of life and believes in his own free will. Like a lab rat, his life and movements are observed and controlled by others, until it all starts to unravel and a different world emerges to the world that he thought he knew.
The puppet masters of this trans fairy tale have turned it into a horror story . But more and more people are waking up to what’s really going on, behind the curtain. The Emperor Has No Clothes is also The Wizard of Oz.
Thank you for writing this. So appreciate it.
Thank you. I wish my husband would read this, but he is trapped in the woke, BeKind world, focusing on the us/them politics of it all, instead of seeing what’s happening to our beloved and very vulnerable son. I think transition is inevitable for him because of the forces pushing this — we’re in California, so I am focused what comes next for these young people. We know it will eventually hit them that this was a con job, but what then? What world will they wake up into and will they be able to survive the regret? Stemming the tide of parents rushing their kids to the gender clinic is crucial. Gender critical/skeptical has to become the kind/rational option in order for this to end.